Are You Chasing the
Elusive Butterfly of Happiness?
For many people happiness is an elusive butterfly
garden of life. Imagine a young child in the garden on a
summer day. The child sees a beautiful butterfly flitting
from flower to flower. With eyes of wonder the child wants
to see it close up, touch it, and hold it in their hands.
The child goes towards the flower that the butterfly is
resting on, with arms out stretched, only to find as he just
gets in reach, the butterfly moves to another flower.
Undeterred the child follows the butterfly to the next
flower, and then the next, but the butterfly always stays
just out of reach.
As adults, happiness can seem just like that butterfly,
always just out of reach. It becomes almost an obsession and
the words "if only" become an increasingly large part of
our thoughts and vocabulary. If only I had more money I
would be happy, if only I was in a great relationship I would be happy,
if only I could have a different job and the list goes on. Even if we
achieve one of our "if only" desires, the happiness we seek is still
just out of our reach. The truth of the saying "The grass is
always greener on the other side of the fence " becomes our focus and
perception. If this becomes our focus, we find that dissatisfaction and
unhappiness keep growing in our life and experience.
The unhappiness within us can not be completely satisfied by
external events or circumstances.
To find happiness in life
we must first be at peace with ourselves internally.
If we neglect any one of
External events and circumstances can bring us happiness in
the moment, but they do not have a lasting effect on our
inner life. Life experience brings a mixture of good and bad
circumstances to everyone. To rely on life’s experiences for
our source of happiness would mean living life in a constant
emotional roller coaster ride.
Happiness comes from within. The inner contentment that
survives the roller coaster ride of life has its roots deep
within our being. The source of happiness comes from finding
and embracing who we are as a person, and living a life of
purpose. We need to find peace in every aspect of our life-the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual. To discover
acceptance, purpose and peace in all of these areas will
give a sense of completion in life.
these areas, we experience a sense of emptiness and feel
something is missing. There is not a solid foundation for building
happiness within, but we then, typically start to
try to fill this incompleteness by looking for outside
solutions. That is the point when we can fall into the
‘elusive butterfly’ syndrome, and experience such
Is happiness an elusive butterfly for you? Spend some time in quiet reflection. Are you neglecting one of the four
important parts of who you are and experiencing a sense of emptiness within? The more you discover, embrace and accept your
uniqueness and purpose, the more you will experience the butterfly of
happiness alighting on your shoulder.
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Discovering andCelebrating Your Uniqueness